No such thing as Fairy tales...

I guess in this real world we live in, there really isn't a Girl worth being called a Man's Princess. There isn't a love story that would lead a guy and gal together and would live happily ever after.
I gave up long ago for dreams of one day meeting my Princess, and me as her Prince.
The elegant and meaningful ways and gestures, expressing true and undying love will forever more just be a illution to many and will never materialize.
In love I know that we can never be sure of what we may have and is constantly a gamble for our feelings. Emotion gets the best of us and clouds our ability to decide.
People play games and never bother for anything but fun, and Love is left only as a word used to bait people in despair and ones that are lonely.
I have a feeling that fairytales and love stories are for fools that long for imposible and unrealistic things that they want to happen to them.

I no longer believe in dreams... and live my life day by day with god as a guide, respect as a tool and undestanding as a weapon.

I do... ??????

When is the right time to get married?

I'm in my late 20's and I am still not in the groove of getting married. I am still single and no one in mind for a partner. But I am not closed to the possibility of me in a relationship that could end up with marriage. When can a guy say that he had found the one, the one that he'll bring and walk with to the altar and say " I do " to each other.

Having a long time relationship doesn't usually end up in marriage. I am the proof of that, coming from a 10 year relationship that didn't go well and we still parted ways. Some couple go on together for just a few years, some only months then decide to tie the knot. I've known some that just met and had been going out for a few weeks and went steady for two months then to my surprise they got married in less than four months all in all. The marriage didn't last long in less than a year they filed for annulment. But this is just one example and does not apply to all relationships that had shorter stages of getting to know each other.

There are also some that prefer long time relationships to know the partner better and see if they are really in love not just mere infatuation. Some ranges from 5 to 10 even 15 years before they say " i do ".

Either way... Short or Longtime relationship it still doesn't assure anything about a forever lasting marriage. The time spent together in the getting to know and the Boy/Girlfriend stage doesn't secure a great married life.

That's why some people want to be single not to go through the unsure path of relationships and end up on the ugly side of the truth. Let's face it nothing in this world are sure fits or match made. We roam earth not only to survive but also to find our mate. And finding that mate is the gamble everyone faces, we gamble not only our hearts, but also time and effort we use to make sure that we are with someone that compliments and completes us.

I have known a lot of people that preferred to be single, for simple reasons like the avoidance of a life full of complications and some just want to be alone cause they have failed in the past looking for love, which caused too much pain and left a mark in them not to open to love again. These becomes a paranoia that some people go through and try to over come. Opposite of this is being polygamous and have a tendency of having two or more partners. Having this kind of set up is to fulfill all the needs that one partner can not give. Although this is an immoral way of living still some people go with it. This sometimes often leaves a negative mark to people with this kind of relationship or personality. When men marry multiple times they are marked as unfaithful while for women marked with adultery. But here in the Philippines men ( specially those in politics ) have more than one wife, a usual reason why women are attracted to these men are due to the financial security that they bring, for the men their satisfaction on this is the lust and need to have someone pretty with them that they call their own ( especially for D.O.M).

While women on the other side have a more subtle approach to this, which longs for satisfaction of being care for, loved and with lust.

This should not be the case, as per God's creation we are only meant for someone. A partner made only for us. It is our responsibility to find that partner, God gave us a lot of things to survive and sustain us for the search and other things we do on earth. In the Bible there was Adam and Eve, no one else but the Devil. In this scenario the Devil is the temptation behind every sin, and in this case temptation to see who we really are meant for in this life. Clouding our decision making due to the temptation and pursuit of what we want, not what we need.

I guess people should be more attentive to what they need versus what they want in life. Too much wanting may lead to uncontentment, and may never stop searching for what we want in life. Nothing is perfect and we should know how much more we should go. It won't matter if we had a great thing that is brittle and fades away. Better have something that is worth every effort and time. Contentment is the key and finding the right person with the purest of intentions can make it easy for us to find and make sure that the relationship can lead into a marriage that can last through eterninty.

Are you happy?